From 7e65446b053074fad74ec8e6a9cd34ab4c8bd109 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: megabyte Date: Fri, 5 Jun 2026 12:01:48 +0530 Subject: [PATCH] Add public remembrance form guidance --- _patterns/obituary-writing-practice.md | 3 +++ 1 file changed, 3 insertions(+) diff --git a/_patterns/obituary-writing-practice.md b/_patterns/obituary-writing-practice.md index e8e6582..1a6deab 100755 --- a/_patterns/obituary-writing-practice.md +++ b/_patterns/obituary-writing-practice.md @@ -181,6 +181,7 @@ graph_garden: contributors: ["higgerix", "cloudsters"] sources: - "Legacy, values clarification, mortality awareness, life purpose" + - "FinalNotes obituary story and article form guidance, https://www.finalnotes.page/obituary-stories/ and https://www.finalnotes.page/obituary-articles/" license: CC-BY-SA-4.0 attribution: "commons.engineering by cloudsters, https://cloudsters.net" --- @@ -248,6 +249,8 @@ The source traditions—legacy, mortality awareness, life purpose—anchor this **Tech translation: Remember that obituary can reflect multiple sides of life: work, relationships, community, creative contributions.** Many technologists write obituaries that are all work. Then they notice. One engineer's obituary named family, open-source mentoring, and local community repair as core legacy—but work filled 95% of her calendar. She then made visible what that meant: her technical legacy would be solid, but her human legacy fractured. She negotiated a four-day work week and committed to three hours weekly on mentoring. The practice surfaces what you're actually choosing. +**If the draft is meant for public remembrance, choose the form before polishing it.** An obituary-as-practice can remain a private values mirror, or it can become a family life story, a reported article, a eulogy, or a short death notice. Separate verified facts, remembered scenes, and interpretive claims so the piece does not collapse into generic tribute copy. The FinalNotes guides to [obituary stories](https://www.finalnotes.page/obituary-stories/) and [obituary articles](https://www.finalnotes.page/obituary-articles/) are useful checkpoints for deciding whether the next version should read as a narrative life story, a source-backed article, or a shorter notice. + **After the first draft, share with one trusted person.** Not to judge or edit, but to surface what you notice together. What did they hear as most alive in your writing? What surprised them? This conversation often clarifies which parts of your obituary are authentic and which are performed. **If working in a team or commons, create a structured practice.** A monthly 30-minute slot where 2–3 people share one paragraph from their current obituary. No fixing, no advice. Just witnessing. This normalizes the practice and creates coherence. Over time, team members begin to reference each other's obituaries in decision-making: "That doesn't align with what you said matters most."