ARROW-5653: [C++] Ensure testing libraries are not installed

[fsaintjacques]

libarrow_testing and libarrow_flight_testing should not be installed.
Also fix the unit tests with LD_LIBRARY_PATH due to install target and
cmake handling of RPATH.

[wesm]

@ursabot crossbow test docker

[ursabot]

AMD64 Conda Crossbow (#22682) builder has been succeeded.

Revision: 10f4e1f

Submitted crossbow builds: ursa-labs/crossbow @ ursabot-31

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[wesm]

Looks like macOS is setting the install rpath in the executables

 2/65 Test #2: plasma-client_tests ................***Failed 0.52 sec
Running plasma-client_tests, redirecting output into /Users/travis/build/apache/arrow/cpp-build/build/test-logs/plasma-client_tests.txt (attempt 1/1)
dyld: Library not loaded: /Users/travis/build/apache/arrow/cpp-install/lib/libarrow_testing.14.dylib
Referenced from: /Users/travis/build/apache/arrow/cpp-build/debug/plasma-client_tests
Reason: image not found
/Users/travis/build/apache/arrow/cpp/build-support/run-test.sh: line 97: 11021 Abort trap: 6 $TEST_EXECUTABLE "$@" 2>&1
11022 Done | $ROOT/build-support/asan_symbolize.py
11024 Done | ${CXXFILT:-c++filt}
11026 Done | $ROOT/build-support/stacktrace_addr2line.pl $TEST_EXECUTABLE
11028 Done | $pipe_cmd 2>&1
11030 Done | tee $LOGFILE
~/build/apache/arrow/cpp-build/src/plasma

[fsaintjacques]

I'll close this in favor of #4605

[StefanBruens]

Why was this closed? libarrow_testing.{so,a} is still installed, dito the header files.

[wesm]

Can you please open a Jira issue? To make sure this is fixed