branch-4.0: [enhance](memtable) support adaptive write buffer size

[sollhui]

pick #56948#62104

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run buildall

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BE UT Coverage Report

Increment line coverage 48.39% (15/31) 🎉

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Complete coverage report

Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	52.94% (19210/36287)
Line Coverage	36.11% (178957/495578)
Region Coverage	32.73% (138713/423785)
Branch Coverage	33.71% (60272/178822)

[hello-stephen]

BE Regression && UT Coverage Report

Increment line coverage 48.39% (15/31) 🎉

Increment coverage report
Complete coverage report

Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	71.33% (25339/35524)
Line Coverage	54.01% (267165/494695)
Region Coverage	51.50% (220434/428061)
Branch Coverage	52.97% (95066/179465)

[sollhui]

run buildall

[doris-robot]

BE UT Coverage Report

Increment line coverage 54.29% (19/35) 🎉

Increment coverage report
Complete coverage report

Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	52.99% (19227/36287)
Line Coverage	36.15% (179144/495588)
Region Coverage	32.74% (138747/423793)
Branch Coverage	33.74% (60329/178828)

[hello-stephen]

BE Regression && UT Coverage Report

Increment line coverage 54.29% (19/35) 🎉

Increment coverage report
Complete coverage report

Category	Coverage
Function Coverage	71.36% (25349/35524)
Line Coverage	54.05% (267394/494705)
Region Coverage	51.70% (221291/428069)
Branch Coverage	53.11% (95321/179471)

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