fix(driver-sql): advance updated_at on updateMany() and on upsert()'s merge branch

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+`updateMany()` and `upsert()`'s merge branch now advance `updated_at` (#11176).
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+Two write doors were leaving "last modified" reading the row's previous value —
+on **every** deployment, DDL-managed or not (which is what separates these from
+#11067, whose defect needed `skipSchemaSync`):
+
+- **`updateMany()` stamped nothing.** No `tablesWithTimestamps` consultation, no
+ `updated_at`. `update()`, `bulkUpdate()` and `rotatedUpdateById()` all stamp;
+ this door did not, so a bulk edit left every row it touched reading its
+ creation time.
+- **`upsert()`'s merge branch did not advance it on Postgres and MySQL.** The
+ merge set is derived from the keys of the formatted payload, and
+ `stampInsertTimestamps` — the only thing that put `updated_at` there — returns
+ early on any non-SQLite dialect, because the column DEFAULT already stores a
+ zone-aware instant on insert. A DEFAULT does not re-fire on the conflict path.
+ **SQLite was accidentally correct; Postgres and MySQL were not.**
+
+Measured on live PostgreSQL 16.13 and MySQL 8.0.46, through the driver's own
+`initObjects`, with `update()` advancing the same column on the same table in
+the same run as the contrast.
+
+Nothing errored before this fix, which is why it went unnoticed: list-view
+sorts, delta/incremental sync, cache invalidation and audit answers simply read
+a stale `updated_at`. A bulk status change and a sync/import that upserts — the
+common shape for connector and seed writes — are exactly the operations most
+likely to be feeding a downstream delta consumer.
+
+No accept-set change and no new rejection. Both doors keep #3493's opt-in
+historical import (`preserveAudit` with an explicit `updated_at`) intact, and a
+hand-migrated table that genuinely lacks the column keeps working: `updateMany`
+reuses #11067's presumption-and-recovery machinery whole, and the upsert door
+stamps only where the column has been OBSERVED, never on a presumption it has no
+way to recover from. The SQL emitted for SQLite, and for any object with no
+observed `updated_at` column, is unchanged.