[RN][Codegen] Backports fix: exclusion of selectively disabled libraries from codegen generation

[cipolleschi]

Summary:

Backport of #51838 to 0.79

Changelog:

[IOS] [FIXED] - Skip codegen for selectively disabled libraries in react-native.config.js

Test Plan:

1. Install a library that has the componentProvider field set in the codegen config (for example: react-native-safe-area-context and react-native-screens or see reproducer)
2. Exclude library with react-native.config.js
3. install pods / run codegen
4. Check that codegen actually excluded the specified dependencies from: ios/build/generated/ios/RCTThirdPartyComponentsProvider.mm